These are two very special boxes, they are memory boxes, there is one for each of my children. They contain photos, little notes, reminders of days out and of fun and laughter that we have had together. There is a letter in the box, for each of my children ~ these boxes are only to be given to my children ~ in the event that something happens to me and I am no longer around!!!!
At this point, I should point out that I am not ill, I am in perfect health (as far as I know!! ~ apart from a few aches and pains here and there!!!). BUT (and please excuse me being a bit morbid here!!!) ~ not one single one of us knows what tomorrow will bring or what is waiting for us around the corner!! Life is so so fragile ~ this has been brought home to me on many occasions in my life. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever imagine that I would lose my Dad when he was only 45 years old ~ that the man who I idolised would die and there was absolutely nothing I could do but sit and watch it happen ~ there before my eyes. I would give anything ~ my very last breath ~ to have just one more precious moment with my Dad, but unfortunately I know that will never happen.
All these years later ~ I have so many happy memories of my Dad, my childhood and all the wonderful times that we shared together. But, to have a box, where I could lift the lid and reach inside and take out a photo or a note from him ~ reminding me of something we shared which I may have long since forgotten would be so special.
For this reason and this reason alone I decided to make the boxes for my children ~so that (god forbid), anything should happen to me ~ they will have them to take with them all their lives and they can reach inside and pull out little reminders of times spent together and will know that their Mummy loved them both ~ more than life itself XX
Monday, 9 June 2008
Memories all wrapped up in a box.............
Posted by Tabitha at 22:40
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What a great idea - beautiful. I have boxes where I have kept special things/school things for the kids and cards and such, but not a box just like this - this is a wonderful idea.
Hope you had a good day - see you later - Kellan
dear tabitha,
i had no idea that your dad had passed:[ i assumed he was enjoying retirement from the military as i know you've mentioned that he had once served his country. i'm so sorry you lost him so early in both his and your lives...
i miss him for you.
i think the boxes are a brilliant idea... not morbid at all. i totally believe in the adage, "hope for the best, but prepare for the worst." that's probably the safety engineer coming out in me. but i've never heard anyone complain about having been prepared only the alternative.
your kids already KNOW what they mean to you, respectively. the memory boxes will some day (a very, very long time from now, hopefully) be icing on the cake...
love,
dani
I have memory boxes for my babies too. Before my c-section, I became a little anxious about the possibility of dieing during surgery. I wrote Porgie many letters, just in case I died. My husband thought I was insane.
Hi tabitha
I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your dad. You obviously had a special relationship.
You're so right, life is fragile and something that should never be taken for granted as we never know what's around the corner.
What a beautiful idea to have a letter for Daniel and Lauren. Through your blog they will also be able to see and know just how much you adore them and how you make always make them the centre of your universe.
Love and hugs
Elise
Tabitha.. such a beautiful post!! That's the main reason I started scrapbooking!! We never know what tomorrow brings, but for whatever reason we are not there tomorrow... there will be a small comfort to help them remember all the wonderful memories!!
Hope you are having a great day!!
Take care,
love & hugs,
Tanya xx
I think that is a beautiful idea Tabitha. And just think, (remaining very positive that you have a long long life ahead of you!) the boxes will be so full of special memories by the time you are 90 and you give them to your children!!!!
xoxo
I have always had that thought in my mind to that I should do it. I guess theres something in me saying don't be silly but I really want to tell them how much they mean to me.
I think I will do it. That was why I started blogging so they could read bits about there life.
Yes I am going to go ahead and do it.
THANK YOU
What a beautiful idea. I have actually been pondering something similar for my own daughter. I think your idea is the best. I shall start my own!
Thanks Kellan,
I kept meaning to do the boxes ~ but kept putting it off, then decided that tomorrow may be too late ~ so they have been up and running about 6 months now!!
Have a great day
love and hugs Tabitha XX
Hi Dani,
My Dad died in 1994 when I was 24.
He left the army at 40 and him and my mum were looking forward to life together ~ post forces ~ when he became ill. They eventually found out it was bowel cancer and he had operations etc, and got the all clear ~ unfortunately about 18 months later it came back (they hadn't got rid of all of it), and it went everywhere ~ so there was no hope really!! He was only 45.
Your adage is great ~ that is the way I look at life ~
I hope the children know how much I love them, but as you said oneday they will have the boxes and that will hopefully mean alot to them
Have a great day ~
love and hugs Tabitha XXX
Hi Christy ~
I am glad to meet someone else who has a memory box too.
It is funny how certain things that matter in your life have an effect on you and make you want to write letters and leave some kind of legacy!!
Take care
love and hugs Tabitha XXX
Hi Elise,
My Dad meant the world to me and I have never quite got used to the fact that he is not here anymore.
You are right, life is so fragile and you just have to make the most of every second!!
I hadn't thought about them having the blog too ~ but that will also be something special to look at when they are older!!
Hope all is well with you.
love and hugs Tabitha XX
Hi Tanya,
I couldn't say it better!! Your words are so true ~ thank you!!
love and hugs Tabitha XXX
Hi Juz ~ hopefully by the time I am 90, or 100 even ~ there will be about 30 boxes for each of them ha ha!!!
I do select very carefully what I put in the boxes ~ it is mostly notes and photos ~ and little poems too ~ but nothing too bulky!!
Hope you are well,
love and hugs Tabitha XXX
Hi Kristen,
That is exactly what I was like, I kept putting it off and then various things happened that made me just do it. I am so glad that you are going to do it too.
Take care.
love and hugs Tabitha XXX
Hi Erin,
I am so pleased that the idea has made you think of doing a box for Mia too. It is a lovely idea and something very special that we can do for our children (just incase!!).
Take care,
love and hugs Tabitha XXX
Tabitha, not only will you have the memory boxes for your children, but also this blog where you talk about D&L. In ten years time they may not remember that they once had to sleep on the floor or that L's bed deflated and that she slept in your bed, but your blog keeps a record of all these tiny things. This will help them remember too.
Of course the boxes are more tangible. I have a few letters to my children: one for when they turn 21 and one should they have a child, just in case I'm not around to say how proud they have made me.
Hugs,
Tania
I missed this post too.
It's not morbid. You don't know what tomorrow brings. I know that being a nurse and so do you being in the police.
Keep adding to those memory boxes.
Love Amanda xx
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